The Rosas-Standring Family

Ruben and I have always planned on moving to Mexico. We always knew that if we wanted to get him papers that we would have to pack up the kids and move to Mexico. And that is totally fine. I am even excited. But in this situation, Ruben is not here. He is not sleeping at home in my bed, he is not sneaking up on the kids while they play in the backyard, and he is not standing in the kitchen - picking at all of the food that I made for dinner while I try to get everything on the table. He is not with me. And it is so hard. To have the level of happiness that you can achieve in one day suddenly cut into half. I am not upset at all about the move. I think that the timing is perfect. I mean, the kids are young and very able to adapt to change. They have been nagging us to teach then Spanish. They will be able to pick up the language so quickly, and friends so quickly. Not to mention that we were just about to renew all of the stuff for the business. We would have put down some hefty money and we would have been locked in for 2 years.

I am having a really hard time realizing that I am going to lose my house, my truck, my credit, all of the things that I have worked for are going to be obliterated. And not even because of something that we did. There was no business failure. Even after I lost my job we kept things going really well. And in this market... we were doing okay. But this- this totally hit me from left field.

After realising where he is- I go from scared out of my mind- to angry- so angry. Angry to the point that I was going to let him sit in there for the day or so. But then, after hearing his voice, I wanted him home for me to yell at rather then sitting in jail. Soon it becomes clear, he is not going to be coming home. He is going to be going to Mexico. This was always that crazy, "it could happen" story. And now here I am, in my living room that is full of boxes, clearly labeled for the manje de casa that I will eventually be able to do - once I move with nothing and then request to move there - from there:) and then come and move all of my stuff about a year later. Fun huh. Not to mention the crazy amount of work you have to go through to get all the paper work. We need marriage license and birth certs to be apostle at the capital of the state that issued it. Fine and dandy for here in Oregon, but we have to go to SF switch short form for long form certs and then drive to Sacramento to have a special seal put on it. How crazy is that.

I am much happier and more relaxed now that we have decided that I am going to fly with the kids. Now my biggest worry is to get all of my stuff sold. Well, I had better get on.

***FOR MORE INFO & PHOTOS OF CENOTES IN THIS AREA- SEE MY OTHER ENTRIES ON CENOTES-

I must say that I am surprised about how much resistance I get about my move to Mexico. I mean I am moving to a place that people wait and save for years to go visit. My friends that live there LOVE it. I mean first of all - it is a wonderful country full of amazing people and culture. Is it the USA?- no--- Are the financial concerns fair--- yes. But the things that people focus on is so different. The things that are important to people are different. I mean- it is not like I cannot come back. I want to at least try it. I have a very good and dear friend who lives there - near the same area that we want to move. And she loves it. She does not have everything in the world- but even better- she does not want it. Her life is simpler and she is happier. And she made the comment to me recently that things seem to fall into place the less she focuses on making that way. On a regular Sunday afternoon- she can go hiking around the Mayan ruins-
and go swimming in the local cenotes. The city that we are moving to is Tulum. It is considered to be a pretty local town compared to is near by bigger cities of Playa del carmen (the latest resort area) and Cancun- which is a very diverse place to live. Tulum also has some great ruins.

"The ruins of Tulum (Mayan for 'fortress') are remarkably well-preserved -- built in 967 C.E., the temples on the site have survived almost entirely without upkeep. This was a small Mayan city; at its height only about a thousand people lived here, as opposed to 40,000 at a midsize city like Tikal. But it's the most popular Mayan ruins site, with almost two million visitors a year -- probably because it's the only Mayan city to be built on the ocean. The Mayans didn't sail; they only found out about boats after being conquered by the Aztecs." - I am sorry I am not sure what web site I found this infor from!
Here are some pics of the city...

Not to mention the cenotes. Here is a great Blog about where we are moving- http://www.yucatantoday.com/destinations/eng-cenotes.htm. Check out some of these cenotes

Cenote, (say-NOH-tay) called dzonot (ZO-note) by the ancient Maya were defined by the Motul dictionary, a dictionary of Mayan hieroglyphics, as "abysmal and deep" or "hole filled with water" - from playamayannews.com